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August 18, 2003

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Carolyn Beitzel

COuld you approach the teacher as another peer with knowledge of CPM and also to let this teacher know that this is an area that JW is confident in and needs support?

The biggest thought I get out of this is: WOW, what a confident young man. Not many would approach a teacher with a well thought out argument. Most might just whine and complain and really, many would not even do anything. If nothing else comes out of this for him, he can tell himself that he has a skill in communicating.

Marsha

Oh I have been here before as a parent on more occasions than I thought.

And so these events always beg the questions about what to do as the mom. I have found if I intervene too adamantly, then the teacher is defensive and that makes everything worse. If I do nothing then I feel like a heel for failing to advocate for my child.

Such a delicate balance with no clear answers that I can discern from raising 3 kids---my last one is a senior this year!!!!

Usually if I play the part of a questionner and outloud wonder how this grade occurred, I can sometimes facilitate a gentle conversation with the teacher. Those usually led the entire conversation about teaching them responsibility and to follow directions. And I then have to wonder outloud how that is a part of a grade I thought was about what they learned not followed procedures. And I summarize by stating now I am clear that the grade is not just about what they learned but all the rest.

Even if it doesn't change a teacher's mind, I think stating it outloud really is the best way to prompt their thinking.

And it's a great conversation with my children about what they will do when they "rule" the world instead of my generation!!!! Oh, I hope they can do as well as they think they can :-}

marsha

Margie Waterbrook

Congratulations on entering the world of blogging. One of these days I might just get up the courage to do it myself.
Your experience w/ your son's math teacher/test is both disheartening and infuriating. It is clear you already had him try to deal with her directly, to no avail. I don't know what your relationship to the school or the particular teacher is, but do you think it would do you or your son any good if you know went in to discuss these issues, or do you think the teacher might just come down harder on him?
Having her be so petty about the math answers AND so irrational as to have his math grade affected by his leaving the room to go to the bathroom (I assume he had permission and didn't leave against her wishes--even then that is a behavior issue and not a grade issue)would have me "ranting" too, especially when you say this is the one grade that he could count on for success and self-esteem. I sure would be thinking about storming the school, but only you know whether that will do more harm than good.
Keep us posted.
Margie

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